Hi Nikki! I’ve been a close follower of your blog for about a year and a half now, and I was wondering if you had any style tips on dressing to meet the parents? My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years now, and while I’ve met his parents once before, I feel as though I didn’t make the best decision in style when I had met them.
He and his parents are originally from South Korea, and they are more on the traditional and modest side. School ALWAYS comes first. So I believe appearing studious (and slimmer!) would really appeal to them.
I am about 5’4″ and weigh 150 lbs. My bra size a 34DD (106 cm) and my waist is about 82cm. Also, my skin tone is a caramel color- similar to Rihanna. Thanks for listening!
Meeting the parents is a huge milestone and I’m very happy for you and your boyfriend, Justice. I can definitely understand why you want to make a better impression but I also believe that being your best yet genuine self is the way to do it. After all, isn’t that what your boyfriend loves about you?
You might want to look up the outfits of the Duchess of Cambridge, a.k.a. Kate Middleton. I find her outfits to be a great mix of simplicity and elegance, and she’s not afraid of combining high-end and fast-fashion brands either. Now, check out my suggestions!
The Best Foundation Garments and Necklines
As you’re rather busty on top, it can make you look more top-heavy than usual, Justice, and overshadow your narrow waistline. So make sure you wear a good bra that will give excellent support to your girls. Choose a rounded neckline or modest V-neckline for your dress or top. This is to make sure your look is proportional and the attention is entirely on you, not just certain parts. If you feel you need to wear shapewear, please do so.
Peplums and A-Lines for Proportions
The easiest outfit to wear would be a dress, of course, but you can also choose to wear a separate blouse and skirt. If his parents are quite traditional and modest, pay special attention to your decolletage and dress or skirt length.
I have no idea about your overall body shape or your hip size compared to your shoulders, bust or waist. Still, I recommend you go for a structured silhouette for your dress or tops by choosing those with darts or princess seams to streamline your profile. A-line dresses, of course, are highly recommended. Check out the 1950s styles to give you an idea — they emphasize a narrow waist like yours even if you’re wide on top and at the hips. Peplum tops would also do the job perfectly! For that “studious look” that you want, why not try a collared dress? It can be something as simple as a shirtdress or mock two-piece frock in classic tweed to it on-trend for winter.
Soft, Draping Fabrics
Most winter garments tend to cling to the body so I recommend checking that there isn’t too much stretch in the garment so that your clothes will drape rather than cling. If you’re wearing separates, try a blouson-style waist, or choose a blouse or top that has soft pleats or gathers at the neckline or bust. This will also soften a top-heavy look. A monochromatic palette for your top and bottoms can also help achieve a more streamlined look, and make you look taller — aided by heels of course.
You can choose to coordinate your outfit with your boyfriend through color. If he’s wearing a striped blue shirt or neck tie, you can also add a shade of blue to your outfit, such as a cardigan or earrings. That way, you complement each other’s style but avoid looking too similar.
If you choose to wear something with a pattern or a print, keep it small and tasteful. A tweed skirt or dress has enough visual and textural interest, and looks cute with a simple sweater or blouse. Tonal details like lace, ruffles or pleats can make your outfit look playful even if it’s in just one or two colors. Keeping your outfit simple also leaves you more room to play with accessories, whether it’s a statement necklace, silk scarf or a chic pair of heels.
Lastly, be confident, respectful and have fun. I’m sure his parents will love you!
P.S. If you’re sending a question, please don’t forget to include any helpful information about your body type or shape, your tastes or personality. You can include a selfie (link only please) or a photo of your clothes (which I will never publish without pre-approval). Thank you!